Sharon Adetola

 A marriage vision journal isn't a wish list. It's a spiritual practice — a place where you bring your desires to God, ask Him to shape them, and record what He's saying to you in this season. Here's how to start one. Step 1: Begin with prayer, not a pen. Before you write anything, ask God what He wants to show you about this season and what's ahead. Let the journal be a response to Him, not just a projection of your own hopes. Step 2: Write down what God has already spoken. Any scripture that's stood out, any impression in prayer, any confirmation you've sensed — record it. These become markers you can look back on later. Step 3: Record your own heart honestly. Your hopes, your fears, your questions. A vision journal isn't performance for God; He already knows. It's a place to be fully honest before Him. Step 4: Revisit it, don't just fill it. A vision journal only works if you return to it — to pray back over what you wrote, to noti...

 One of the most powerful things a single woman can do isn't just waiting — it's praying. Not vague, prayers, but intentional ones. Here's a simple framework for praying for your future husband, even now, before you've met him. Pray for his relationship with God first. Not his relationship with you first — his relationship with the Lord. A man who is truly walking with God will know how to lead, how to serve, and how to love, because he's learning it from the source. Pray for his character, not just his qualities. It's easy to pray for tall, kind, ambitious. Pray deeper: integrity when no one's watching, humility under correction, patience under pressure. Pray for his healing. Whatever he walked through before he met you — disappointment, rejection, past mistakes — pray that God does the healing work in him now, so he doesn't bring an unhealed version of himself into your marriage. Pray for your own readiness too. Praying for a future husband...

                      Every season carries blindspots—things we can't quite see about ourselves until someone or something holds up a mirror. Sometimes we discover them through a difficult conversation. Sometimes through disappointment. Sometimes through prayer. And sometimes God allows a quiet season to expose things we would have been too distracted to notice otherwise. Singleness can be one of those seasons. It can be a season of freedom, growth, discovery, friendship, service, and deepening your relationship with God. But it can also be a season where certain patterns become easier to hide because you don't yet have the daily pressures and responsibilities that come with building a life with another person. Marriage won't automatically expose every blindspot. But it can certainly make some of them more visible. That's why preparing for marriage shouldn't only mean asking, "What kind of husband am I praying for?" It can also mean...

 Before any woman says "I do," there's a quieter question worth asking first: Am I saying yes from wholeness, or from waiting? Here are four questions I encourage every woman I mentor to sit with, prayerfully, before marriage — not after. 1. Have I actually healed, or have I just moved on? Time passing isn't the same as healing happening. Old wounds that go unaddressed don't disappear in marriage — they usually just find a new person to test them on. 2. Do I know what I actually believe about submission, leadership, and partnership — or am I borrowing someone else's definition? These words get thrown around loosely. Know, from Scripture and from prayer, what you actually believe a Christ-centered marriage looks like, before you're navigating it in real time. 3. Can I see this person's character clearly, or am I explaining away what I see? Discernment gets clouded by hope. Ask God for eyes to see clearly, not eyes that only see what you want t...

So many of us grew up dreaming about the wedding day — the dress, the flowers, the moment at the altar. But a wedding lasts a day. A marriage lasts a lifetime. And I have found that the women who thrive in marriage are the ones who quietly started preparing for the life , long before they ever picked out an invitation. Here are three signs you're doing exactly that. 1. You care more about character than chemistry. Attraction matters, but it fades in and out with seasons and circumstances. A woman preparing for a life asks deeper questions: Does this person's character hold up under pressure? Do they keep their word? How do they treat people who can't do anything for them? 2. You're building now, not waiting to start later. You're growing spiritually, financially, emotionally — not pausing your life until "he" arrives. Marriage was designed to multiply what's already in motion, not resurrect what's been sitting still. If God brings someone tom...

I want to say something to you before we go any further: singleness is not a waiting room. It is a preparation room. And if you have ever felt a quiet shifting in your spirit — a restlessness that isn't anxiety but readiness — that is not your imagination. That may be the Holy Spirit at work. Walking with single women through Prepared Bride Academy, I have watched this happen again and again. God does not wait until the wedding day to start preparing a woman for marriage. He starts long before there's a man in the picture, because the work He wants to do is in you , not in your circumstances. Here are five signs I have come to recognize — in my own life and in the lives of the women I mentor — that the Holy Spirit is preparing your heart for marriage. 1. You're becoming more interested in who you're becoming than in who you're meeting There's a shift that happens. The questions change from "when will he come" to "who is God making me into while I...